Successful women aren’t hard to find in today’s world. Now, I am not an overly feminist woman. However, I would consider myself someone who thinks it's a good thing to encourage other women to be strong and motivated. There are so many influential women in today's society. Success is not just measured by wealth or status, it is also measured by the amount of confidence someone has and the lifestyle they live. Here are some quick tips of things really successful women do:
1. They do not expect perfection (of those around them, or themselves)
“Perfection” is nonexistent in the world and successful women realize this. The Huffington Post shared what Debora Spar wrote in an op-ed for Glamour magazine; “So don’t emulate Wonder Woman; think about what’s wonderful to you instead. Then boldly, audaciously, joyfully, leave the rest behind.” Perfection doesn’t exist because people are perfectly imperfect; it is more normal to make mistakes and accept them than to dwell on them.
2. Find a man who wants you to succeed
Marrying just to marry isn’t something successful women do. Now, we might be a little young for this, but it’s an important thing to remember. I personally am not at college to get my Mrs. degree, I worked hard to get where I am! You need to have a partner who appreciates your career and wants you to succeed rather than hold you back. Sheryl Sandberg observed in "Lean In": “I don’t know of a single woman in a leadership position whose life partner is not fully – and I mean fully – supportive of her career.” Find someone who loves you for who you are and what your goals are in life rather than someone who wants to hold you back.
3. They ask for help when they need it
Asking for help is important because you don’t always need to be superhuman. It’s okay to get stuck and to realize that you need some assistance. Ronald Regan said, “We can’t help everyone, but everyone can help someone.” All you’ve got to do is ask for help and you’ll find someone who would love to assist you.
4. Be yourself and love it
Laurel Thatcher Ulrich said “Well-behaved women seldom make history.” Do something you are passionate about, even if it’s out there. Show the world who you are and say what you have to say. Society used to think women should sit at home and cook and clean and be good lovers to their husbands. In modern society, it’s alright to speak your mind! “There are no good girls gone wrong – just bad girls found out,” according to Mae West. Be ‘bad’ and get out there. Speak for a cause. Don’t be ‘good’ and be the perfect wife or woman by sitting at home. Start action.
5. Passion makes your job great
Love what you do, otherwise there is no point in wasting your life doing it. Successful woman love what they do and it pushes them to be great and succeed. “Without passion, all the skill in the world won’t lift you above craft,” wrote dancer Twyla Tharp in her book, The Creative Habit, shared the Huffington Post. Your career should not be a day to day chore that you hate doing.
6. Be your own advocate
Share your opinions and your thoughts. Mae West said, “Every man I meet wants to protect me. I can’t figure out what from.” It’s okay to speak about what is important to you and to say you’re good on your own. Think you want to start your own business? Share with your loved ones. Think you have a brilliant idea? Start working on it! You have to think for yourself and get your voice out there.
7. Take a leap of faith
Risk. Risk. Risk. You have to take calculated risks to be successful sometimes. It’s about not being afraid and having faith in your opinions and beliefs. If you believe you are going to be successful, take the risk. It may make you! Andre Malraux said, “Often the difference between a successful person and a failure is not one has better abilities or ideas, but the courage that one has to bet on one’s ideas, to take a calculated risk – and to act.” Don’t be rash, but be confident in your decisions.
8. Realize people might think you’re a b----
Being confident doesn’t make you a b----, but strong women may be perceived that way by others. Don’t let that frighten you or halt your actions. Bette Davis said, “When a man gives his opinion, he’s a man. When a woman gives her opinion, she’s a b----.”
9. Make connections
Women realize that social circles and relationships are important to success. Express gratitude towards those who help you and encourage you. Maintain these relationships by getting involved and expressing how much you care about those relationships. Be sincere and uphold your values when it comes to your friendships. “A friend should be one in whose understanding and virtue we can equally confide, and whose opinion we can value at once for its justness and its sincerity,” said Robert Hall. Being a true friend to others will allow you to form connections that will continue to benefit you forever.
10. Failing is okay
Failure is just a part of life and it is very common. Frank Sinatra said, “The best revenge is massive success.” Steven King, for example, received dozens and dozens of rejection letters, but he did not let that discourage him. Look how successful he is! You can do it too.